Why the Third Person Rule Works

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One of the strategies that I recommend in Author Your Life is that we all write our stories in the third person. This is more than just a helpful tip. It’s actually a way to process information and help our brains accept new patterns of thinking.

Michigan State University and the University of Michigan published a study in Scientific Reports in 2017 that said talking to yourself in the third person can help you psychologically, even helping you control stressful situations. “Essentially, we think referring to yourself in the third person leads people to think about themselves more similar to how they think about others,” said Jason Moser, an associate professor of psychology at Michigan State University, who helped lead the study.

This matters because we are often so super mean to ourselves, berating and beating ourselves up in ways we would never treat another person. Raise your hand if you are usually way nicer to others than you are to yourself. Alternatively, if we try writing out situations like we’re a character in a book, it can fool our brain and our emotions into believing the narrative a bit more.

So instead of writing “I have a great relationship with my husband,” you’d write your story like you were observing a character: “Ashley has a great relationship with her husband.”

This is a hugely important step in creating new patterns of thinking as well as the right mindset for your stories to come true.



Author Your Life comes out on March 5! Your support means the world, and I hope you’ll pick up a copy and tell me what you think. You can always email me at: lara@authoryourlifenow.com

Happy reading!