Do You Worry You're a Bother or a Burden?

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Many years ago, I was at a salon getting my hair done, and my regular stylist handed me off to a young employee who was just learning the ropes. “Put her under the dryer,” my stylist said to the trainee.

So under the dryer I went, but immediately I was uncomfortable. The dryer air was blowing all the chemicals from my hair into my face and lungs, and my eyes started welling up and streaming tears. I could hardly breathe.

If you’re reading this and hoping I shot out of my seat and marched up to the service counter and was like, “Gah! Help me!” I am going to disappoint you.

My “I don’t want to be a bother” side came out in all its glory, and I just SAT THERE.

Yep, you read that right. I had hot chemicals pouring into my face and I didn’t do anything. I didn’t want to be a pest. Some broken, whacked out part of my brain was so worried it was me causing all this, when, really, I think the trainee just forgot to put a plastic cap on top of my head.

Can you relate? Have you ever just accepted something because you didn’t want to make a fuss or inconvenience someone else?

If so, I totally get it, but the good news is that you deserve to ask for what you need and want, and you can write a story where you begin to do just that.

Try using these writing prompts to begin to raise your voice and take up space:

  • [Your Name] asks for what she needs. She believes she deserves to enjoy her life.

  • [Your Name] gives herself permission to ask for help. She doesn’t have to do everything herself.

  • [Your Name] knows she is not a burden to others. She makes time to think about what her needs are, and what will make her happy.

  • [Your Name] has the courage to speak up when her heart knows something is wrong.

Remember, the whole idea behind Author Your Life is that you can write a story about yourself in the third person -- imagining what your character has, what she does, and how she feels -- and this process can impact your real-life life as a result. If you need a primer on getting started with Author Your Life, just click here.


Do you need help putting pen to paper? Are you feeling stuck and not sure what your story should say, or what you want to do with your life?

I WOULD LOVE TO SUPPORT YOU DURING A FREE AUTHOR YOUR LIFE STORY SESSION. We’ll do the same thing any good writer does with their book — figuring out what’s working, what’s holding your “character” back, and what to write to ignite the most change. W