Do You Worry You're a Bother or a Burden?

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Many years ago, I was at a salon getting my hair done, and my regular stylist handed me off to a young employee who was just learning the ropes. “Put her under the dryer,” my stylist said to the trainee.

So under the dryer I went, but immediately I was uncomfortable. The dryer air was blowing all the chemicals from my hair into my face and lungs, and my eyes started welling up and streaming tears. I could hardly breathe.

If you’re reading this and hoping I shot out of my seat and marched up to the service counter and was like, “Gah! Help me!” I am going to disappoint you.

My “I don’t want to be a bother” side came out in all its glory, and I just SAT THERE.

Yep, you read that right. I had hot chemicals pouring into my face and I didn’t do anything. I didn’t want to be a pest. Some broken, whacked out part of my brain was so worried it was me causing all this, when, really, I think the trainee just forgot to put a plastic cap on top of my head.

Can you relate? Have you ever just accepted something because you didn’t want to make a fuss or inconvenience someone else?

If so, I totally get it, but the good news is that you deserve to ask for what you need and want, and you can write a story where you begin to do just that.

Try using these writing prompts to begin to raise your voice and take up space:

  • [Your Name] asks for what she needs. She believes she deserves to enjoy her life.

  • [Your Name] gives herself permission to ask for help. She doesn’t have to do everything herself.

  • [Your Name] knows she is not a burden to others. She makes time to think about what her needs are, and what will make her happy.

  • [Your Name] has the courage to speak up when her heart knows something is wrong.

Remember, the whole idea behind Author Your Life is that you can write a story about yourself in the third person -- imagining what your character has, what she does, and how she feels -- and this process can impact your real-life life as a result. If you need a primer on getting started with Author Your Life, just click here.


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